A cliché post today but I just thought I would share some of my thoughts on what I’ve learnt so far in life. Yes, I’m in my (late) twenties so maybe in other people’s eyes I have still so much to learn and that is 100% true. However, I wanted to talk about a few things for some of my younger (you lucky rascals) readers and those of you who feel the same way and can relate. I love nothing more than catching up with my favourite bloggers and finding out that they go through the same emotions as I do, a simple statement but it just makes me feel that little bit more at ease. If they’re in the same industry as me or want to achieve similar goals then I feel more at peace with myself. This has turned out to be a LONG post so go grab a cup of tea or coffee and settle down for a read.
I can be my own worst enemy at times as I give myself such a hard time about not achieving what I have wanted to at this age. Whether this is regarding my career, personal goals or just in life in general. Over the past year I have been working hard to take it easy and understand things a little better starting with myself. I try thinking things through before I jump the gun and start having a go at myself or think that the world is against me. It’s not an attractive quality to have and it certainly doesn’t do your confidence any good, it can even take a toll on your health if you’re not careful. Without getting too deep and carried away with this I’m just going to highlight some key thoughts about life so far…
1. Mind The Manners:
Working in this industry is an amazing experience and something I cherish doing everyday however it definitely has a dark side. Over the few year’s I have come across the most ignorant, belittling and horrible people. As soon as they get any sort of a name for themselves or believe they’ve been in the industry for a certain amount of time, they seem to loose all of their manners. Remembering where you came from and that feeling you had when you first started out is of massive importance. I find that industry professionals and sadly even some bloggers, are set on looking after themselves and no one else. Yes a certain amount of drive is required to go after your dreams but don’t ever knock anyone down on your way up, you may need their help when you’re coming back down. I recently had a discussion with someone regarding people’s hesitations and willingness to share their story and industry knowledge. Sadly this will never change so make sure you surround yourself with people you trust and who you can turn to about any little thing. Luckily not everyone is like this and by having that great group of people makes this journey all the more enjoyable and you can share your triumphs and fears with them knowing they’re looking out for you.
2. Just Keep Swimming:
I can’t tell you how many times I have “freaked out” about what path I’m going down, if I could make it in the career I have always dreamt about and how long will it take to make a name for myself. Also, let’s not forget those ‘lovely’ people who like to tell you that you’ve went into a dead end career path and make you feel even better about yourself and all of your hard work. With all of this in mind, I have still continued to work very hard on building my brand and keeping up with my blog and networking. It’s all part of the game and I absolutely adore every second of it. Now, I’m not at the stage where I can blog full time as I do have a day time job, however I still have that hope in mind that I will get an opportunity to move into my desired field in a more permanent position. My point is don’t give up at the first sign of doubt, everyone’s success happens at different times. Some happen early on, other’s have to work that little bit harder for it. I’m not going to lie, during my freak out moments I have looked at others and wondered how it has worked out so well for them straight away. I just try to remind myself that my extra bit of hard work will make me appreciate it greatly when it does happen for me.
3. Be Yourself:
A cliché point but often one that is underrated. As you see other people, bloggers and industry professionals grow, celebrate their success with them. Don’t try to copy their brand, style or path taken as it will not work out that same way for you. You can certainly have the same goals and work ethic but adjust it to your own life and work hard for achieving the life you want. Now.. I have a lot of people who I admire and turn too when it comes to their careers and advice they might have for me but never would I set out to mimic them as it is not me. I would focus on what I want to achieve in life and career and work on it in a way that is true to me. As Oscar Wilde has said: “Be yourself; everyone else is taken”.
4: Do What You Love:
I always see this quote everywhere I turn. It is one that I constantly think about and remember when times get tough. I may only be freelancing at the moment but as I’ve previously said throughout this post, I absolutely adore what I do. Whether your foot is just in the door or you’re lucky to be working full time in your chosen career, the determination still lives on. The hope of making it more of a full time business is very much alive. I have to give up a lot of my own personal time writing, taking photographs and of course, networking. I’m not complaining as I enjoy nothing more and I’ve been able to step out of my comfort zone. I know there are some people out there who mock what I do but I don’t see them doing what they love (settling and judgemental springs to mind). I wake up everyday excited about what opportunities may come my way or what new brand I will be working with. It gives me a great sense of determination to keep working hard and I love that this little blog is all mine. From start to finish my blog is full of my hard work, endless hours writing and sometimes tears.. something that I am very proud of. I certainly love what I do and this is incredibly important when it comes to building your brand.
My final point and probably the most important. No matter what you go through in your life, you need that best friend that will always be there for you. I’m extremely lucky to have mine for over twenty years now and I don’t know what I would do without my curly haired little rascal. She has been there for me through the hardest of times and always helps and endlessly listens to me when I’m talking her ear off. She is so supportive of everything I do. I’m even luckier to have a great group of girls who I can turn to that I’ve met through life and in particular, blogging. We share our hopes and dreams and help each other throughout our blogging journey. When I need some mentoring advice, I’m lucky to have met the most helpful people who encourage every move I make and help me succeed further. I only hope I do the same for them as I cherish all of my friends greatly. I don’t know where I would be without any of them and I enjoy nothing more than catching up with them for a good old gossip.
I hope this wasn’t too long and you were able to get some inspiration from it (and enjoyed the many quotes!) Haha. All of the points link into one other but each topic is so important to remember. I know when I read similar blog posts regarding people and what they are going through, it always helps me to feel a little bit better knowing I’m not the only one.